Any of you remember Lilo & Stitch? One of my favorite Disney movies and one that is probably underrated, in my personal opinion.
There is one scene at the end of the movie, when Stitch is about to board the spaceship to go back home to his planet….and there he asks if he could say goodbye to his family.
It is this quote that really resonates with me, especially as of late.
“This Is My Family. I Found It, All On My Own. It’s Little, And Broken, But Still Good. Yeah. Still Good.” -Lilo & Stitch, Disney, June 16, 2002.
This is my family. We were four once. So we are little But we are good. But we are far from broken.
Our family dynamic may not look the same right now. It is not lost on me the sacrifices that my children have made over the last three years. I am also very aware of the changes they have had to walk through, the emotions they have tried to process, and the normalcy they probably crave.
I can only imagine what it must feel when they see their friends with their “whole” families. It hurts. I am sure it does.
But we are whole. And, if you are in a similar situation like me, and maybe your family has gone through a Divorce or loss of some sort, you are still whole.
Nothing is going to change that.
I decided a long time ago that I did not need a man or a husband in order to make my family complete. We are complete on our own. I want one. I want to love someone and I desire for him to be a part of our family.
He has to be incredibly special if he is going to be a part of our lives. If he is going to be a part of my children’s lives. He won’t he their dad’s replacement. They have a dad. But he has to be a special human being if he is invited to be a part of our lives.
But, if that never happens, my family will still be whole.
It needs to be said over and over again that you don’t need another person in order to complete you. You are perfectly and wonderfully made by our creator. A human being is not your creator. At best, they are a wonderful companion and a beautiful example of the covenant God made with his people.
Marriage does not make you whole. It makes you married.
Buying a house does not make you whole. It simply makes you a homeowner.
Having lots of money in the bank account does not make you whole. It means you have a lot of money.
Having children won’t make you whole. It makes you a mother and a father.
The truth is, we may never obtain the things we so greatly desire and want. I may pray every day for someone to love, to love me and to love my children. That may NEVER happen.
And I am okay with that.
Because I have those two. God gave me the two greatest gifts I could have ever asked for. Together, their dad and I, in love, brought forth Madi and Sean. They were supposed to exist. Of course, I wish things had turned out differently between their dad and me. Of course, I am saddened that our marriage ended the way it did. It hurts me because I know that it hurt my kids.
So yes. This is my little family. We are small. It is just the three of us. It is hard sometimes. We fight. Get on each other’s nerves. A little messy. But we are whole. We are complete. We are not broken.
It is good. Still good.